How to Find the Right Therapist
Finding the right therapist can feel a lot like dating. There are many options, and you want to find someone you connect with and feel understood by. A good first step is to be clear about why you want therapy. Are you dealing with overthinking, stress, family issues, trauma, or big emotions you can’t name yet? Having a goal helps narrow your search. You may also want to think about whether working with a therapist who shares a similar background matters to you. For many BIPOC clients, this can reduce the need to over-explain life experiences. If a therapist does not share your background, it’s okay and encouraged to ask about their cultural competence and how they bring it into their work.
Online vs Virtual Sessions
Next, decide whether you prefer virtual or in-person therapy. Virtual therapy offers more flexibility and access to a wider range of therapists. In-person therapy may feel more personal and grounding for some people. There is no right choice only what works best for you. If therapy is new to you, don’t skip the consultation. Choose three to five therapists and book short consults. Think of these as mini interviews where you learn about their style, approach, and personality. If you’ve been in therapy before, reflect on what worked well in the past and what you want to be different this time. Therapy works best when the fit is right.
Frequently Asked Questions
Should I try more than one consultation?
Yes. Talking to a few therapists helps you compare styles and choose the best fit for you.
Do I need a therapist with the same background as me?
Not always. Some people prefer it, and others do not. What matters most is feeling respected, safe, and understood.
What is the best way to find a therapist?
Start by knowing what you want help with. Then look for therapists who support those needs and offer a free consultation.